Transformation Can Be Fun
Who’s in charge? Is the Dragon, better known as the “voice of inner judgment” and technically, the “superego,” running your thoughts, sabotaging positive change and putting you down? Does the dragon con you into believing unhealthy patterns are safe and the only way to go? Or, does the dragon keep you busy obsessing over yesterday, worrying about tomorrow instead of being present in the moment?
The dragon operates in many costumes beginning with internal self-judgment imposed by the standard of family and authority figures. Next, through judgment from others carrying a variety of labels. Add to this collective judgment from society. It is even possible to judge the judgments made as self-judgment, judgment from others and collective judgment combined for a triple hit!
The dragon’s voice of inner judgment started out with helpful information for safe living through observations like: “Don’t cross the street when the light is red. Don’t touch the stove when the burner is on. Stop running too fast.” Observing your emerging independence around age four looked threatening to the dragon. The dragon sought to stay in control by whispering phrases like: “You should have done better! You did it wrong again! Whatever gave you that crazy idea?” The voice of inner judgment dialogue diminishes creativity, curiosity, joy and discovery while fostering self-doubt, fear and staying stuck in familiar patterns.
Transformation can be fun. Let’s be curious about this voice of inner judgment and really check it out. Is what you are hearing actually true? Question the dragon. Try talking back to the dragon with phrases like, “get lost, back off, leave me alone.” Imagine the negative image, belief system or judgment the dragon is trying to sabotage you with represents something you are wearing like a watch, vest, scarf or jewelry and deliberately take that item off. Release the power of the dragon’s voice of inner judgment. Now, take a deep breath and see how you feel.
You have the power to be in charge of your thoughts and confront, question and redirect the dragon’s voice of inner judgment. In fact, no one can do it better than you! Stephen Covey, author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People has a wonderful quote. “Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us.” And, this includes the critical voice of inner judgment.
You brought your own unique gift and talent into this world. Your special tribute to life is rooted in passion, longing, creativity, love, joy and a deep knowing. Take charge, move forward and leave the doubt provoking voice of inner judgment behind you. Create positive affirmations for yourself on your cell phone, index cards, computer and reinforce the positive daily. Start a journal and dialogue with the deeper part of your being. Ask for direction, guidance and begin listening to your inner knowing. Develop a relationship with your intuition and follow your hunches. Great inventors relate stories of sudden insights, dreams and hunches they followed right through the door of success.
Trust yourself and the greater wisdom of your being. Your body has been carrying you safely through every breath minute-by-minute. Stop and listen to what it is telling you. The more you drown out the dragon’s voice of inner judgment, the clearer your own voice will become. Place three dots by your computer, on the bathroom mirror or refrigerator as a reminder to simply and gently … hold yourself in love, honor and reverence just as you are in this moment in time – it is perfect in the eyes of the Universe! Goodbye Dragon!